Adhd and dating relationships
*While ADHD can ruin relationships, the good news is that both partners are not powerless.
There are steps you can take to significantly improve your relationship.
As Orlov said, when you know that your partner’s lack of attention is the result of ADHD, and has little to do with how they feel about you, you’ll deal with the situation differently.
Together you might brainstorm strategies to minimize distractibility instead of yelling at your partner.
With good intentions, the non-ADHD partner starts taking care of more things to make the relationship easier.
And not surprisingly, the more responsibilities the partner has, the more stressed and overwhelmed — and resentful — they become.
Say a couple is struggling with a parent-child dynamic.
A way to overcome this obstacle, according to Orlov, is for the non-ADHD partner to give away some of the responsibilities.
One of the biggest challenges in relationships is when a partner misinterprets ADHD symptoms.But “a person who has ADD shouldn’t be defined by their ADHD.” In the same vein, don’t take their symptoms personally.7. Understanding the impact that ADHD has on both partners is critical to improving your relationship. If you don’t have ADHD, try to appreciate just how difficult it is to live every day with a slew of intrusive symptoms.If you do have ADHD, try to understand how much your disorder has changed your partner’s life.8. Whether you’re the partner that has ADHD or not, you may feel very alone. She gives a couples course by phone and one of the most common comments she hears is how beneficial it is for couples to know that others also are struggling with these issues. However, some may not understand ADHD or your situation, Orlov said.So it’s important to pick an organizational system that works for you and includes reminders.For instance, it’s tremendously helpful to break down a project into several actionable steps on paper and set cell phone reminders regularly, Orlov said.5. “Marriage is all about attending to each other adequately,” said Orlov, who suggested that couples consider how they can better connect with each other.