In fact I wasn’t into my own culture as much because I grew up along a lot of other nationalities, in what I call “London culture”.Outside our homes, we spoke the same street language, ate the same type of food, listened to the same type of music and were attracted to the same type of guys (or girls).“For most of us English is not our first language, we think in our mother tongue then translate it into English.If you can communicate with someone in a language that you both feel comfortable with, it makes being with that person easier.It also contains a bonus audio that answers some inquiries to typical situations with males.All these can be downloaded at a reasonable value for the beneficial tips it consists of that present benefits immediately.Some field digging I did a bit of digging to get the views of other people of African origin on intercultural dating.Some responses:“Love is love.” Jennifer (23), Angolan“I would only prefer to date a Congolese man because we both understand each others cultures.
As one uncle put it to me [I’m Congolese], “If you married a Nigerian, how would you cope if he wanted to retire in Nigeria? Could we really say that relationships would be easier if we were with someone of the same origin?It’s just easier.” Bridgette (25) Congolese“I don’t mind as long as I am happy and loved, that is all that matters.” Dora (28), Zimbabwe Immerse within your own culture What I found was that those who immersed themselves exclusively in their own culture (i.e mono-cultural churches, parties, gatherings) – even if they lived in a very mixed society abroad – were the ones who were adamant that it was easier and preferable to date within their own culture.Am I saying that those who date outside of their culture are not in tune with their own?It was for this reason that I began to look for like-minded guys who were also from my own culture, guys I could relate to. I know my family would be pleased if I brought home a Congolese man, but what if I do so to my own detriment? Love blinds common sense.”The idea of retiring in a country totally unfamiliar to me is quite daunting and something I know would take a lot of discussion with my future partner, if he happened to have a different country of origin.“Dating is one thing, but marriage is another”, an aunty told me. Marriage and dating are two different things, clearly, but which factors are fundamental when deciding whom to marry? Love is love, as one of the respondents said, but is it better to stay within cultural boundaries to save ourselves from the potential future troubles that might result from mixing cultures – as some elders advice – or should one ignore boundaries and deal with issues if they arise? Having to decide which culture my children followed more or which one was dominant in my household is another consideration, as I find it important for reasons of identity.