Dating advice and shyness
Okay, so I don’t mean jump out in front of someone you find appealing in an all-out creep fest, because doing so would just feel uncomfortable and strange, but if a woman doesn’t know you even exist, how will she know that you’re interested in her? Introduce yourself to her, talk to her about interesting things.Get a feel if she’s compatible with you or not, by that I mean ask yourself if she’s someone you’d like to take out on a date, or if she’s someone you wouldn’t want to know in a million years.It’s all about giving her the right signals that you would like something more from her when you’ve decided that she’s a good match for you. Don’t sit with her for ages going through all her problems when you’re only doing so to get more from her. Be a straight talker and one that portrays their intentions directly.Ever heard of the phrase, “don’t be too available.” Yeah, don’t.Immerse yourself in life’s lovely qualities that can often have you letting your friends down on one or two occasions because you’re too busy with your hobbies and interests. Don’t plan to take your date for a coffee or to a restaurant, instead, take her horse riding, skydiving, mountain climbing — be vigilant, make sure it’s something that she would enjoy before springing it out on her. If you’re shy like I was then you probably didn’t have many offers growing up.It may be hard separating your lust and pent up sexual tension from the date you’re on but you need to respect her always and know where you stand when it comes to consent. I’ve heard no amount of women tell me the really nice guy that she thought she was dating acted like a sexual predator on her first date with him. You’re getting to know each other a little bit better, and it’s definitely not an open invitation to her bedroom. After knowing some people for ten minutes I generally have a good idea if I want to be in their presence or stay a million miles away. So, basically, make sure she’s aware that you exist.And not through a friend of a friend, make sure she’s talked to you at least once and for about five minutes.
But, reality check: Dating isn’t always easy, especially for quiet women.
Shy people can’t always walk up to someone and strike up a conversation.
Oftentimes, our shyness gives off the vibe that we’re stuck up or full of ourselves. Here are six dating tips that might just change the game.
It’s easier said than done, but ultimately, if your crush is going to become your long-time SO, then both of you need to break out of your shells.
“I’ve struggled a little bit with being open on dates, but I would say that it's helpful to just be yourself and play to your strengths,” says Rachel, a junior at Roosevelt University.