Dating text message
Matt went overseas and Elle continued on with her life.
Then a few months later at precisely am – we have the time stamps to prove it – she received a text message from her one-time-maybe-suitor. Elle continued to resist his enticing offers and finally he made a very astute observation:"I'm sensing some hostility," he wrote.
So if he can text you at 11pm on Friday night after a week of silence and charm you with something like: “UR 2 hott! Maybe it’s a low self esteem thing, but as long as some desperate girl lets him get away with it, he’ll always have a low-maintenance sexual outlet.
Therefore, he’ll never feel the need to do all the heavy lifting of relationships such as “calling” and “dates”….
And what can be more flattering than conveying, electronically, the idea that you DON’T want to talk to the woman you’re courting?
Elle and Matt are both 20-something millennials who somehow managed to meet at a bar, not on a dating app.
Is it too early in the dating process for phone contact? I think it should be used exclusively for only a handful of things: Letting someone know that you’re lost or running late. But anyone who’s ever used it knows how conversations can easily take a wrong turn.
How are you supposed to progress the relationship if you never “touch-base” by actually speaking to one another? Or, am I just old fashioned (39) and not used to this new aspect of dating? Telling someone where you’re located in a crowded theater or bar. There’s no context, tone, voice, or facial expressions to modify your message. You’re encouraged to misspell, you’re discouraged from saying anything deep or meaningful.
It was, for all intents and purposes, a booty call, and not a subtle one at that. You see, Elle was in her pyjamas and did not want to meet a strange man who messages women at 5am in the morning after a “good time with the boys”. Finally their text exchange ended with one final and highly problematic message:"Don't be so selfish, think about others and their needs.
She didn’t respond but that night at 8pm, she got another text.“I know it’s late but how are you doing? Alas, he did not get the hint.“Hmmm pyjamas sounds sexy,” he continued.*vomits*“What about I bring over some snacks and we hang out in wanted to get laid and thus, his hormones got the better of him and he lost the ability to communicate. Like my own and the need to share a bed with you and a pizza and Ben and Jerry's."And no Matt, we simply will not.