Dating with purpose and purity
While presenting I Corinthians 13:4-8, Stanley moves slowly through each of the Apostle Paul’s love descriptors careful to paint a clear picture of what love looks like when it is “not easily angered” or “rejoices with truth.” By using Scripture—an overall rare occurrence in this book—Stanley creates an easily digestible to-do and not-to-do list with practical, contemporary examples that squash the fairytale “love” narratives inundating our culture. I was disappointed with Stanley’s book for a couple reasons, the first being its lack of depth.
Undoubtedly, he has provided Bible-based premarital and martial counseling to thousands of struggling couples.
This is the most troublesome part of Stanley’s book.
It fails to lay out clearly the sanctity of marriage and its divine purpose, which has to do with much more than fulfilling our “relational satisfaction quotas.” As a pastor, it is disappointing that he avoids Genesis 2, which clearly lays out the purpose of marriage, namely, that it is a covenant relationship between one man, one woman, and God.
Trusting Him, then, requires that I leave some things to be decided by others. I say no to the last three questions, an emphatic no.
If, when the time has come for a commitment, he is not man enough to ask her to marry him, she should give him no reason to presume that she belongs to him.” ― “Until the will and the affections are brought under the authority of Christ, we have not begun to understand, let alone accept, His Lordship.This, and the fact that I was desperate to escape the Grey from every possible angle (though I’m grateful for their messages), prompted me to download a copy of Pastor Andy Stanley’s new book on romantic relationships to my Kindle. Geared towards the young, unwed, and culturally savvy, Stanley explains in the introduction that his purpose for writing mean? Still I pressed onward with hopes of encountering helpful gems of wisdom and Christian counsel over the next 200 pages.After all, the author is the Evangelical pastor of the largest church in America. The book’s strength lies in providing clarity on the idea that love is an action, not an emotion.I must resist my urge to manipulate him, needle and prod and pester until he capitulates. In forfeiting the sanctity of sex by casual, nondiscriminatory ‘making out’ and ‘sleeping around,’ we forfeit something we cannot well do without.I must trust God in him, trust God to do for both of us better than I know.” ― “What do women want today? There is dullness, monotony, sheer boredom in all of life when virginity and purity are no longer protected and prized.