I have genital HSV, not sure if it's type 1 or 2 because you can get both anywhere on the body. THere is no place on earth so fine as in a man's arms. I would happily be a platonic friend to some man who would put up with that, but regretably I met a real man and he loved to touch me but changed his mind when he found out I had Herpes. Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice.
The idea of choosing to date someone with it or not is ridiculous, because you don't have a choice if they don't tell you, and many people are too ashamed to tell. People think they can do a visual check to see if a partner has got it, but there is something called asymptomatic shedding. I wish I weren't so emotional and I try to be sensible but it hurts so very much when someone instinctively reacts that way to you. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number.
So, if someone actually tells you and you can take the proper precautions, your chances are better. I put him off for a bit then I said ok, I'll come across, I like you and trust you and then I told him about the herpes.
Personally, anyone who rejects me because of it doesn't deserve me anyway. For instance, if my ex had of told me, I would have still been with her and I probably wouldn't have it now. Cause IMO that places a sexual limitation on the relationship. Originally posted by UCFKevin I've wondered for a while, if someone does have herpes, couldn't that potentially get them laid a lot MORE? Wow, did he change all of a sudden from touchy cuddly mr.
You should educate yourself before making a decision, and that's hard with herpes because there's so much misinformation out there, and doctors will steer you in the WRONG direction more often than not. Aside from a complete lack of a physical relationship, if there is no sex then there is no hope of kids. My reasoning is this: they could find others who have herpes, and they wouldn't have to worry about spreading it because the other person already has it. When I first got a sore I was in a big panic -- I didn't know what herpes was --i went to a clinic and they told be all sorts of horror - i told my boyfriend and he took me straight to bed and had unprotected sex with me.
If you want more info: check out Healthboards.com, you'll find many posts by me with my radical beliefs (like why I believe that herpes CAN be cured) and many other people sharing their experiences and knowledge.
It was her attitude that made me decide I wish not to associate with her any longer.
I know most people would call me narrow minded, but realistically, does anybody want a STD? Not completely sure where this stat comes from, if it's USA or worldwide. Just do a search on "herpes" and I'm sure that you would find them. HSV-1 can also cause genital herpes – it can be passed to the genitals from a person with a cold sore during oral sex. HSV-1 is even more common, with more than half the people in North America being infected. I'm in a relationship now,and I made the huge mistake of not telling him until about a week after we had sex. HPV is so common, I think I read someplace that up to 70% of sexually active people have it,most do not know. My reasoning is this: they could find others who have herpes, and they wouldn't have to worry about spreading it because the other person already has it.What would you do if you started dating someone and he/she tells you that he/she has herpes?On my side, I would probably go running if someone tells me. HSV-2 is the virus most often responsible for recurrent outbreaks of genital herpes and about half of primary outbreaks.Occasionally someone will organize a Speed Dating Event, but otherwise, our events are not specifically for singles.That said, most BAF members are single and many members do meet people to date at BAF Events.
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I would just like to say that people should be a little more compassionate if a potential new partner reveals that they have herpes. I did for him what I could but I don't think he liked it much and I don't think I'll hear from him again.