Rules dating your ex
They’ll probably assume they meant little to you and could even wonder if you were seeing this person while the two of you were together.
For example, what if your ex saw you kissing another person only a couple of days after the breakup?
Consider the dinner conversation if the person you are dating learns that you just got out of a serious relationship only days before. They will likely think that you aren’t ready, that they could be a rebound, that you are using them to make your ex feel jealous, and who knows what else!
Here’s the deal: If your ex learns that you are dating, it could make him/her jealous.
And you will push your ex further away which means your odds of getting them back will dwindle significantly.
Some people are even misguided into thinking that they should go on dates as quickly as a couple of days after a breakup in order to “show their ex.” What this really shows your ex is that you are either incredibly shallow for simply flicking a switch to someone else so soon or that you are being manipulative by trying to make them see you with someone else in order to create feelings of jealousy in them.
Sometimes after being broken up with, people think that making their ex jealous is key to getting them back.
While your ex feeling jealous is certainly helpful to getting them to want you back, and there are ways to make your ex feel jealous, if your ex is under the impression that you are trying to make them feel jealous, it will only make you look manipulative and weak in their eyes.
You’re kind of bringing in your new self.” People can always tell when they are falling for an ex-spouse again.”That’s a natural thing to come up to people.
You aren’t ready for another relationship anyway and if you want your ex back, you don’t want to demonstrate to them that you are a shallow person.
That is the recipe for a permanent breakup, not a reunion.
It’s not an accident,” says Catherine Tucker, a therapist in Sacramento, California.
The questions you should ask if that happens to you include: “What do you want to do?