Sex date 2014
In the face of these forces, it’s perhaps small wonder that the dimensions along which opposites attract hide in the statistical shadows.But even believers in algorithmic approaches to love acknowledge these shadows exist.Former smokers tended to pair with former smokers, the apologetic with the apologetic, the punctual with the punctual.It is worth noting that causality may go in both directions: Perhaps you’re attracted to your partner because he, like you, was on time for your first date; it’s also possible that he was initially incorrigibly late, but after you fell in love you trained him. Men follow the first: Short men prefer short women, and tall men prefer tall women.Women follow the second: All women prefer taller men, but tall women display a stronger preference for tall men.For his complex but lovely discussion of the subject, see here.
", which lets us see whether similar people tend to pair up using a very different data set.
(We also found some examples where opposites attracted: Morning people tended to pair with night owls, and people with a good sense of direction with those who lacked one.) There are at least three reasons we so often message and eventually mate with the similar.
Before we even meet, myriad forces guide us away from people who are different from us — work, schooling, e Harmony’s algorithm.
I also looked for opposites attracting in other online dating data.
I spoke to Christian Rudder, founder of Ok Cupid, which has a rich and idiosyncratic data set.