Women dating older men psychology
She added that, following extensive research in this area, she discovered that guys who were 40 were also ‘in general, better in bed, had their own place, made excellent breakfasts, were never a dick about it if you didn’t want to see them again and don’t mind when you get pissed and called them 15 times in a row at 4 AM.
Often, they also had cool mid-century furniture in their flats as opposed to Ikea and would make you a martini if you booty called them after the pub’.
An age gap can be good, it can be bad and it can be downright creepy.
A young woman dating an older man is often romanticised but it can be very, very problematic too – take Lynn Barber’s story as told in An Education for instance.
But in reality, it appears that some men choose to date older women partially because there is more of a sense of relational equality.
Such pairings are more common than most people believe, and more successful as well. "The Double Standard in Age-discrepant Relationships." Sex Roles 11.1 (1984): 17-23. "“They’re the Ones Chasing the Cougar”: Relationship Formation in the Context of Age-Hypogamous Intimate Relationships." Gender & Society 33, no.
Alaire suggests that within the context of women-older dating, the ability or desire to “renegotiate the gendered script” that applies to forming relationships is tempered by cultural beliefs.
She was, in part, drawn to him because, unlike men her own age, he ‘didn’t behave as though he had endless options on Tinder and [she] was just another drop in the ocean.Some conveyed that the attention of an older woman boosted their own level of confidence and self-esteem. Yes..younger men, like older women.men my age seem like grumpy Grandpa's. Others recognized that older women have more life experience, emotionally stability, grounding, and can offer both honesty and different perspectives. Older men can get grumpy and negative, that's their only problem. Is this what attracted her to him in the first place?Yes, she says, ‘I think that might have something to do with when he grew up – he remembers Thatcherism properly, and what it was like when New Labour came in, and he’s never been exposed to 21st Century lad culture in any way, which I think is really nice’.